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In November 2016, we started this blog after John was diagnosed with advanced Metastatic Prostate Cancer. It was initially meant to keep our friends and family up to date with John's latest health news. However with his continued good health, it has now turned into more of a travel blog since he took early retirement in 2017. We will continue to update it regularly with our latest travels and any other news. We hope you find it an interesting read. Thank you for all of your support and good wishes.

A Christmas Tale (Blog)

Uncategorised Posted on 12/12/2019 11:35
Happy Christmas

Just a few years ago our Christmas update letters would be very much work-focused; the year falling into a familiar pattern with long hours and seasonal busy periods, punctuated with odd days off to recover and catch-up with chores. It seems unimaginable to say that there has been a positive side to John’s diagnosis, but it has made us completely re-evaluate our life and priorities, and we now fully embrace the old cliché of ‘live life to the full’. Being given a 4-5 year prognosis certainly makes you realise that there is no time to lose, and definitely no time to waste being miserable or negative. John continues to feel well, and is monitored at 3-monthly oncologist check-ups. The PSA level (an indicator of prostate cancer spread) has begun to gradually creep up, but this is to be expected. 

There are other treatments that can be introduced as and when needed, and there continue to be positive outcomes with clinical trials which are yet to be introduced as standard treatments. We do get anxious just before each oncologist appointment and have found that the best way to deal with this is to treat ourselves to a holiday!

Amari Havodda

In April we had the most amazing trip to a very remote Maldivian island called Amari Havodda. The island is located almost on the equator, and is accessed by an hours internal flight (following a 12 hour flight from the UK), then a 15 minute speedboat transfer. The long haul to get there is so worth it—the island is pristine and peaceful with impeccable service, food and facilities.

We really enjoy snorkeling in the Maldives, and had toyed with the idea of learning to dive, so in the summer we signed up to do our PADI open water diving qualification. We completed quite a hefty home study theory course, and 2 days of confined water instruction in Ipswich. In October we travelled to Maui, Hawaii to complete 2 days of open water training (strangely this was more appealing that doing this part of the training in a flooded quarry in Leicestershire as suggested by the dive center). The training (especially the theory) was quite hard going, but as soon as we jumped off the boat at the Molokini Crater and saw the crystal-clear water many metres below us, it was all worth while. We dived to nearly 19 meters and loved the experience.

Molokini Crater

We were genuinely pleased with ourselves when we qualified, and now can’t wait to explore more beautiful underwater locations. Our Maui holiday was spent with John’s brother Bill, and wife Emmanuelle. We had a fantastic time and loved meeting up with Jamie and Juliette (John’s younger brother and wife), and extended family, and getting out and about to explore the island that we have heard so much about over the years. We hadn’t appreciated how diverse the landscape is—beaches, rainforests, jungles, volcanoes and old sugar cane plantations. So much to do and experience.

Haleakala Volcano. 10,000 ft

In May we spent a week with our good friends Maurice and Gary in a
beautiful cottage in a very remote location on the Applecross Peninsular
on the West Coast of Scotland. The area was truly stunning—vast,
unspoiled and breathtaking. We experienced some fabulous sunsets from
the cottage, looking out across the bay.

During the year we have also had short breaks to The Cotswolds, Somerset, Cardiff, Shropshire and Oxfordshire. 

Work: John is doing bits and bobs for 3 local companies. Me: I have now reduced my hours and work 4 days a week. Do you get the message that priorities have changed?

We continue to update the blog every few months: johnandbim.thebethams.com to recap on events and keep people up to date. Dip in during the year if you’d like an update.

So, in summary: it’s been a jolly good year for us. On the cards so far for 2020: Madeira in January for John’s birthday, and The Maldives in April… just because…..it’s amazing and there are fish that need to be looked at! 

Live life to the full, lovely people!!

With love and best wishes to you at Christmas, and for a happy and healthy 2020.
Bim & John



Maui Bethams

Uncategorised Posted on 14/11/2019 17:14

Following on from our last blog I thought it was time to post another short update.

We actually have no real health news to give you at this stage. Our next appointment  and blood test are not due until January, so for the time being we can carry on our life as normally as possible. 

I did have a minor scare a few weeks ago, which started with a new pain on my right side in my ribs. Prostate cancer spreads to the bones as the disease progresses, so I was naturally concerned that this was a sign of the current treatment failing.  The cancer is already in my left hip, but gives me no trouble at this stage. This new pain appeared just over a week before we were due to fly to Maui, so we decided it would be best to check with our GP to make sure it was still safe to travel. I received an examination from a newly qualified doctor. I was impressed with her very thorough and caring approach and pleased that she went to ask a senior GP for a second opinion. The resulting diagnosis was that I had Shingles, which while painful, was understandably  quite a relief. I was put on a short course of anti-viral medication which cleared it up in a week. So, we were all set for our holiday to Hawaii.

So, you guessed it, the rest of this post is another travel blog! 

To start with, I will explain the title. ‘Maui Bethams’, refers to both my brothers, Bill and Jamie who have lived on Maui with their families for many years. This was our first visit and was actually long overdue. Before my diagnosis, we had always found it difficult with our full time jobs to find enough holiday time to get away. We have certainly put that right since I have taken early retirement. We were delighted to stay with Bill and Emmanuelle in their beautiful home near Paia, which is where they have their Maui restaurant, Cafe Des Amis.

Brothers, Jamie, John, Bill

The first thing to say is that Maui is a long way away!  Over 7,300 miles. We flew with West Jet via Vancouver, which was cheap, but very basic. It did take us a few days to recover from the flights, especially on the way home.

We had a fantastic time in Maui and visited some amazing places. Apart from the scuba diving which I will tell you about later, one of the most impressive sights was driving to the top of Haleakala volcano. The view from the top was completely breathtaking, although at over 10,000 feet  that may have been down to the thinning air! It was incredible being above the clouds. We could see the Big Island 100 miles away clearly. As a comparison, the highest mountain in the UK is Ben Nevis which is less than half the height at 4,400 feet.

On top of the world.

We hired an open top Jeep for a drive around the island, which starts with the road to Hana. This was a truly scenic drive which takes you through a wide range of environments, including a stunning coast road, waterfalls, even jungle where it seems to rain all the time. We stopped at Aunty Sandy’s Banana Bread shack, which is world famous for a reason. Delicious. After Hana, the road starts to deteriorate and in some parts was no more than just a dirt track. It was great fun in the Jeep, which handled all the different terrain with no problem.

It was so good to catch up with family and to meet my new sister in law for the first time. Jamie married Juliette earlier this year. Welcome to the family, Juliette. I have included a few photos below from some happy family gatherings. 

We mentioned in our last blog that we had started our open water scuba diving training, and we were very excited to have booked the final part of the course at the Maui Dreams Dive Shop. We had two days completing our training. The first included two shore dives from Ulua beach which were fun. We had to demonstrate that we could complete various safety tasks, such as removing and replacing your mask underwater. 

The second day was diving from a boat at Molokini Crater and Stone Wall. The moment we stepped off the dive platform with a ‘giant stride’ we were in a different world. The water was crystal clear, and it made all the training up to that point worth it. We dived to 19 metres and spent about an hour exploring the floor of the ancient volcano. This part was over all too quickly and we can’t wait to book some more dives next year. We were very lucky to have such an enthusiastic dive instructor, Kelly Coppock. She was really patient with us and obviously loves the job she does.

After we had finished our training dives and were back in the shop completing our paperwork, I tried to explain to Kelly something of the ‘journey’ we have been on. Three years ago, when we received my diagnosis, we both believed that my life was pretty much over. They were very bleak times and we struggled to see how there could ever be good times again. The contrast between then and how we feel now couldn’t be greater. I know we both feel that we have achieved something special, learning to dive, and we are now looking forward to practicing our new hobby. It probably means we will have to book more holidays! I wonder where we should go next?

If anyone reading this has the chance to visit Maui in the future, we thoroughly recommend paying Maui Dreams a call and booking some diving with them. It will be an ‘awesome experience’.



Time to Learn New Skills

Uncategorised Posted on 04/09/2019 17:56

Here we are again, with another Betham blog update. As you know, we started this publication with the intention of letting you know about my health and ongoing treatment for Prostate cancer. However, I do realise that this is now turning in to more of holiday travel blog. There is actually a good reason for this, which is that my health has remained pretty stable for quite some time now, so if all we talked about was my treatment, they would be very short updates.

We had our oncology appointment with the consultant this morning, which is the first time we have seen her in six months. The last time we met, she said that I will probably go onto an additional hormone treatment soon, depending on what level the PSA reaches and how quickly it is rising. Well, we discussed the results from the blood test today and, while the PSA has drifted up slightly to 4.02, all other results including for bone, liver and kidney function are completely normal. This was excellent news and so I will remain on the current treatment plan for the time being.  We are both very pleased with this as I am likely to be more fatigued when the next drug, Enzalutamide is introduced.

It was interesting to talk to the consultant about what to expect when we move on to the next stage of treatment. The introduction of a new hormone medication will hopefully bring the PSA down, and extend the time that I am feeling well, however it may just halt the growth of the cancer. Unfortunately there is also the possibility that it may not be effective at all, in which case I would need to try something a bit more powerful, but this would have stronger side effects which I would like to avoid for as long as possible. She did explain that all these treatments only have a limited time that they remain effective, so it’s best not to use them until absolutely necessary.

We both feel relieved about today’s results, as it gives us reassurance that we can continue enjoying our lives and making the most of every opportunity that presents itself to us, while I am still feeling well. You have probably guessed from the photo at the top of the page, that our latest project is learning to Scuba dive. We have signed up with Diveline in Ipswich to take our PADI Open Water Diver certificate. So far we have had a trial dive in the training pool which was great fun and we have now just about completed our theory, which consists of a 250 page training manual including several tests. This will be followed by four confined training dives in Ipswich. The final stage to gain our certificates is to complete four more dives, this time in open water. The instructors offered us the opportunity to make these dives in a flooded quarry pit in Leicestershire. Alternatively we can finish the open water training in Hawaii, when we visit in October. Mmm, difficult choice! We will let you know how it goes.

And now the bit where I let you know what we have been up to since our last update. You may be surprised, that we have not been away on holiday, but we have had a few trips and outings which we have enjoyed. I won’t bore you with all the details, but a few of the highlights have been going to see Ed Sheeran in Ipswich Chantry Park. This was at the end of his record breaking world tour, and you could tell he was genuinely happy to be home. This was a great evening.

Waiting for Ed

We also had a great family trip to see Ellie and Connor in Somerset over the August bank holiday weekend. Jeannette, Keith and Dan joined us and we had a lovely time on the farm where they are living. It was our 29th wedding anniversary and Bim’s mum and dad’s 57th. We took the opportunity to recreate a few wedding photos.

29 years ago.

I think that’s all we have for the moment. We will let you have another bulletin when we have more news. Thanks for reading.



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